One Fine Outing

It’s been a while since we got active on out blog, so we thought we could restart by posting few glimpses from our recent outing.

It’s always a gratifying feeling when the country we live in is always aiming to build a bigger and better lifestyle for us to experience. There is always something new here, and that’s their speciality.

 

Pressure: Bae for LIFE!

Hello you people reading.. Brace yourselves for this rant that you are about to waste the coming few minutes on!!

Every being on earth has a tough life obviously cause that’s the bloody essence to survive, okay I get it BUT why do other things like: Time, Age, MONEY, Geography, Emotional Parents, and other freaking people who you don’t even know have to add to this already so tough life of yours that you are struggling to live?! Why? Just whhyy…

I come from a moderately conservative family, and I am very much okay with that. I was always allowed to do what I wish but with T&C’s lol, which is fair okay I get the worries. But when I am being such a nice person understanding all that, Why am I taken for granted? for being so understanding? It should be the other way around, I should be more trusted and allowed to make decisions that obviously are reliable and practical. However, that sadly isn’t the case. So do you get the level of frustration a person who is sensible with average IQ and BIG FAT DREAMS/AIMS/GOALS, has to undergo for no real reason? Like seriously!

You finish school, finish university and even grad school for what bruv? to freaking get a career not the ones of the millionaires but reach at a fair level you have worked so hard for. All these years you wait to reach this stage when you slog to find a job and settle down career wise. But NO, it’s time to get married, be a wife and start a family…Yuhhuu What fun! (no offence maybe it’s fun and is a dream for some, but not mine at the moment). Oh when you say no to that, You apparently have never ever followed your family or society or the freaking way of life. Like whaaat??!! Apparently anything you wish to do, you can do it after Marriage with your Husband! Yay that seems so possible…

And the best part, you don’t even get a job why? cause the market is down. Sure bruv you can be down and low as it can get but why now? and why you taking forever? Doesn’t the economy have 1 freakin job (or 2, for ma friend too). Anybody at this situation would move out and look elsewhere or maybe enjoy the vacay! But Na’a moving out is a huge step for you and the only next step is to be wife (woot woot). Okay so you try to destress by meeting your friends, shopping or any other thing you would do which will obviously cost you and make you spend them bucks on, but Hello hold on dahling! Your bank account is on freaking maternity leave!

Now you are drowning with emotions, but positive tumblr life quotes got you! Your optimist bar just rises and some nobody; your neighbor, or a relative who had been MIA all their life comes into the scene all so alarmed trying to save your life gives these oh so wise advices to you and family about how my age isn’t proportionate to what I’m doing with my life. ‘You need to settle down soon, your parents need a break’, ‘Just do some job for now anyway you gonna be home multitasking household chores’, ‘You won’t find good guys if you delay so much’, ‘Don’t know why her parents even listen to her, kids delay but they must know’ – People! I understand how worried you are about me, I really appreciated your non-existence in my life before so let’s maintain that in future too!

So you are in your bed going through insta and checking out vlogs on Youtube, and you hear mumbling from the other room. Who them? My family, Saying what? How they are so worried about me (which basically is my marriage). Like if you all haven’t got it yet – Marriage is what I was born for peeps! *emoji with the shades on*. Okay so I understand that has been yours and every other person’s dream to get me married HURRAY! But hold on a tad bit, it won’t harm you for sure I know!

It’s so simple, yet so hard for anybody to understand that – Marriage, Job, Family and Death (lol) doesn’t need a specific time, location, age, financial status, or societal pressure to be scheduled in one’s life! If I’m happy and I feel I’m settled then I’m obviously open to how others want to take the wheel of my life. Right now I’m not, how hard is it to see that Ya’ll? Stop this pressure, give it time. Let us figure out life first, just stop this unhappy cribbing for a while! It’s so uncalled for.. On one side (online) you see these posts about Feminism and Career Success and on the other side (the reality) you are literally fighting amongst so many emotions and killing yourself inside. The worst part, it’s not because of you that you are in this stress.. It’s the people, the pressures they bring into your life. When will this stop?! I can go on and on ranting, but I know the next minute I post this I’m going back to the physics of life – trying to position my age and life stage at equilibrium. Byyee..

 

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A little bit more.

Whatever you  do, you “need to be a little bit more”. I have been having this thought of how we are either being pushed or being told to ‘be a little bit more’. This is in regard to ‘a better you’ context.

Alright, in one way the idea is all about personal development and is for the betterment of your being, but what if that is just a social pressure that is silently damaging what we are as a person and our character. I’ve got no scientific research or philosophical proof of how exactly we are manipulated by our environment, but it’s obvious that we definitely are being pushed and pulled towards the perceptions of either individuals or the media.

Why do I have to listen to them?

It’s not even the general idea of being a better person – it’s the intricate details that these individuals and media go through. From the tiniest ways to live your life to get on a quest for major life changing decisions – why do you want me to listen to you? Why am I told to always be more than now?

 -No better you than the you that you are- (1)

Recent song release that got me thinking :

“No better you than the you that you are”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Em7vc8NWUNY

What you do is never enough.

Alright, so you come to a conclusion to change, just be a little more ‘open ears’ and listen to them. You understand their point and ‘try’ to change and you succeed too, but guess what, that’s not enough. You should do more. You should try harder. Apparently, the effort you made now is just tiny compared to what you should be doing – based on what the WORLD is doing. Why is that a concern – why are you telling me it should be MY concern? Can’t MY efforts be enough to satisfy MY goals? – nope, we just have to try harder.

“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”

The flip side

Remain calm, if it meant to be it will happen. Like, what now? After all the messages about trying harder and takings efforts to be better, now you tell me to just remain calm? Please media, make up your mind.

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On a serious note, I don’t think I can find an apt solutions to the weariness of this unbalance of having to ‘strive better’ and having to ‘be happy with at where you are’ – it does, of course differ based on your personal situation but the concern is – we are clung on to social media so much that before we start to understand if the message is personally relevant to us or not, we are already ready with conclusions.

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Until next time..xxx

Pictures from Paris

Well its been a while since I had been to Paris – to be specific it was in October 2015, but the memories of the place and the people are so fresh it’s hard to believe it has been four months already.

Time goes fast to realize and appreciate where we are – so here I am finally posting few pictures from the Paris trip.

Ideally, we went for for my brother’s wedding and yes there were loooooads of work preparing for the wedding, but so glad I could also do some sight seeing here and there.

Visit 1: the local market!

Yes of course Paris is known for it’s amazing views of historical sites, but my first visit? the local market! I was too scared to take my phone out to snap pictures of the market so just some pictures on the way.

The brick roads

Visit 2: Sacré-Cœur (White Church)

My first day using the public transport – and it wasn’t just one mode of transport. In one day I got on the tram , the subway and even the bus (can I also say I reached 13,000 steps that day!).

Above are some pictures from the bus. I love vintage buildings, sight of historical monuments (just to imagine the stories behind these monuments) and plain sights of a simple lifestyle – all seen in the collage above.

And finally the sight of the Sacré-Cœur! We didn’t expect the amount of crowd that day, but apparently it was because of a mini street concert happening. French songs being played, and people of all nationalities dancing on the streets quite a carnival effect there. Slowly we made our way through the crowd and up till the entrance. Once we reached we could see the view of the entire city – spectacular it was! (Unfortunately I don’t have a picture of the view here – surely will upload it when I find it). We had our share of one billion pictures taken (I’m kidding, we needed to save memory space) and so we headed over to some snacking (of course) for some fresh Churros.

Once we got done with the pictures and the snacking, we were ready to leave the place for visit no 3, but to a even greater surprise the mini concert suddenly played Bollywood /Kollywood songs! (Video of this later ) After that mini episode of excitement we were off to our visit no. 3.

Visit no 3 : the very iconic Eiffel Tower.

Getting to the Eiffel tower was an adventure. We basically took a longer route and had to wait for the bus and walk longer, just so we could get in time for the ‘lighting of the tower’- 8 pm to be exact. We spotted the lighting of tower from far and it was very beautiful. After which we walked closer the the ‘iron lady’. The place was too crowded and we had to wait in longer queue for the ticket to go up – so we skipped that and headed straight home.

The tower shimmers (seen on the right)

And so after a long metro ride, we caught the last tram and got back home just in time for dinner.

Hope you liked the post! Do comment and share your opinion on the post.

#keepwandering,

-Arunya

 

 

The day we went for the Colour Run 2015

The day of Colour Run 2015 – 21st November 2015

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Us in Yellow!!

After a year of wanting to go for the Colour Run – We finally made it .

Last year Shahana had brought up the idea of wanting to go for the event but we missed the deadline ‘cos of so many pending decisions like I had to travel to Qatar and the dates weren’t confirmed and many other tiny issues…

This year, it was a lot better because we got better compaanyyyy :). We got to pull along our mutual-work-colleague who is now our new-found bestie – Ranjeeta and her little sister -Rachna!

We received the Colour Run pack with some merchandise waaayy ahead of the event so it got us some time to feel the excitement for many days that the excitement did turn towards wee bit of nervous-ness (considering it was our first public run and that saying it includes colour!), but it was all well in the end.

We had to be there at 7am as the gates apparently closes by 9.30 am- the thought of waking up early and to drive to a location far away was by itself a mission for us. As dramatic as it sounds, we did make it on time, well 8.30 ish to be exact, ready to face our next mission to begin the race.

Runners were released on to the tracks on batches and we were (safely) the last batch of runners. Although the hype and attraction, we guessed, would have been more for the first batches, we could see the organizers/ hosts did their best to keep up the excitement till the very end.

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Map of the Colour Run 2015 .

To sum it up, as it looks on the map it was surely one colourful event!! We were super excited go for the run and glad we can tick it off our non-existing bucket list! 😀
Colour runs like these happen in different countries and if you happen to spot one in your place don’t hesitate to sign up for it enjoy the event!

 

Signing off now,

Arunya  🙂

Lesson Learned : Magic no exist

Lesson Learned : There isn’t a magic wand tool in our world. No matter how hard or easy things get. We cannot swish a wand away to banish them off. They stick to you. Stick to you till you get down on your knees and surrender to solving this issue/s. They show you that it does indeed have the power of controlling you IF you choose to ignore it or pretend it does not exist – But yet, are you going to let it? Are you going to let it control you?Are you going to let it over power your mental ability to slash off this slavery to excuses? You’re thinking – well maybe because I have no choice – ‘No choice’ is such a cliche. Choices are there. They just aren’t the choices you aren’t willing to make. They aren’t just what you want to opt. It’s ultimately your decision – but here, here what are we doing now – are we just choosing to break lose or are we going to let the power of excuses grow onto us? 
 
In the more realistic world, I have a ‘let it be’ mindset. If some of you are like me then this is what we do – we trick our minds to believe that a magical world exists and that there is some magic somewhere that you might just stumble across that would change our minds and our issues – we read, we listen, we try to understand and eventually we choose to ignore, we distract our minds, we pretend they don’t exist – and eventually we let these excuses slowly gobble up the only time we have to prove our own minds wrong. 
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Our constant search for what is better – what can be improved, what ‘could’ be better is basically letting us fall into a phase of hope. Well, for beginners, yes hope is needed…but what if we have to keep hoping for things to get better – for good changes to happen.Then we wait. We wait and wait. Just waiting for too long and as time passes – you continue to hope.
Only when I stopped to hope it struck me wait, although I wanted and hope for change- what did I do to make the change? What was my effort in it ? Oh yes, I hoped  – so..is that all? I thought, don’t I want the hope shown as results..?
 
Look up at where you going than down hoping that magic still lies somewhere to show it self. No NO NO. You are your magic. The effort you put in to recreate your hope is the real deal.  No one else does it for you. No external power, no magical power…just YOU. 
Arunya

Cooking? – Ah so easy! (and so we assume)

So, I used to have this notion that cooking is just hmm, kind of eaaaasy – you just mix and swish and mix and swish.. you’ve got some masalas and you some how get a curry. Honestly, I’m not a keen cook, I do not have enough patience for me to spend half a day or even more than 2 hours on cooking..well yea my mom would probably argue at that statement saying “you are sooo young, when you get the situation.. you will leaarrnn and you will be bettterrrr with time”. Well, mommy is mommy indeed.
One thing to add about taste here, no offense to the high class restaurants but I would promise on anything that home-made traditional cooking skills are much much MUCH better than the same traditional dishes you try at “authentic restaurants”, and trust me, that IS the truth. Those trial and errors, those ‘adjusted curries’ with their secret tricks and tactics? — yup, THAT is also what makes home-based cooking skills way better. 
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But yes, back to my ‘notion’ – I used to think cooking is just Grade 8 science. You know, its just an easy experiment of the ingredients and the time and some extra ingredients.. oh that’s easy.. and mainly I use to think “one can never make it to become a bad-cook.. like, you obviously work it out.” –  You are the programmer in making that dish.. you are in full control of what you put in that dish on the cooker. So if it tastes bad-ish, there is always a way out like, ” hey, don’t worry about too much salt in your dish,pour more water, dilute it, add more chilly powder and some other masalas and you are good enough”, or if it doesn’t taste good you CAN make it right and if the curry does taste good then great! – you’ve achieved some great cooking skills.
But me? – nope. After today – after some very poor cooking experiments, “bad cooking” does exists! Forget ‘learning through experience’ and using recipe books or watching cooking channels – my cooking skills CANNOT be.. cannot be.. eh.. well it cannot be even called cooking.. well on second thought… obviously my curries are going to turn out bad if I have the mindset, I mentioned above ^, but YET, I mean it really amazes me how well some young people can cook. Now let me not critique on those kid-cooking shows, but watching those skilled kiddos cook – one think can more a less be confirmed – I don’t think I can survive on my own cooking skills (But you kiddos, need some applause for those skills) .
Now that my rant of inside the kitchen is over, I come out to rest and I think – ‘ohhh noo, I’ve got to eat that tooo’. Ahh well, good luck to my sister for trying out my failed science experiments.. well, we need dinner in anyway.
Off and out,
Arunya

“There was a time I believed in luck and signs”

“Yes, this is it. I am changing my thinking. I am changing myself “, is something you hear quite often when a new year comes. And this year I took some time to analyze something about me – My Thinking / My Thinking Process. 

There was once a time I believed in luck and signs, but as always when you grow older your perceptions change and your mind gets introduced to different worlds and wider perspectives. This made me change into “science-believer” , I started trusted my instincts on practical thinking and practical solutions.

There is actually nothing like proving yourself with facts that led you to situations you face or overcame. The understanding of whys and hows – just that feeling of believing that you know you CAN change your mind, your decisions and the way you take actions. But recently, sole scientific thinking hasn’t helped much. My mind fell everywhere. I had so many practical solutions to my problems that I couldn’t find a solutions suitable to MY feelings, MY ability and MY emotional balance. Being practical does make you realize the FACTS. It does helps reality to slap you in the face and say – “get your hopes low – plan your future and get those actions done!” . And so I, had let myself down. I didn’t think I needed the balance then. Instead of learning to balance two kinds of thinking processes – I chose one from another. I chose to let go of the luck-based-emotional thinking (A-thinking) behind and I followed the action-based emotional thinking (B-thinking).
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Unfortunately, it’s not a game for your mind to take sides on which type of thinking should be chosen or not – or if chosen it would be more successful than the other. And then you begin to realize, tweaking our mind process to your wish does not NECESSARILY get you a “re-start” to life. It is unfortunately and yet again, all about striking a mental  and emotional balance.
  1. You need that strength to create those actions and a source of faith to keep you committed – also you do really, really really, really, REALLY need to trust yourself.
  2. You as an individual would need BOTH in very fixed quantities that switch only in the level of priority, depending on your situation. At a given moment, you may need A-thinking over B-thinking, and at another time it would be vise-versa.
And so I’m off.
(Coming, from someone who may speak and write what is right, but might just be living the opposite.)
-Arunya
“It’s your life-but only if you make it so.” 
― Eleanor Roosevelt

Why the trashing, the cynicism and the rude behaviour?

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The world is much bigger than our mind could even imagine.

It may scare us with the abundance of factors that influence people and their behaviour – the hate, the love, the criticisms, the racisms, the judgements or appreciation.

You may get completely lost and feel extremely minute when you get in contact with this wider world…

But just  think broader with a general perspective.. aren’t we all biologically atleast 5% ( I could say more though) similar to each other – ignore the different factors – colour of the skin, nationality, the ‘I am from this place, therefore I look like this’ factor, the body sizes, the lifestyles, the educational background – anything – just about ANY factor OTHER THAN that we are all humans with one mind, one heart and a body that carries it?

That person who just passed by –  is just another reflection of yourself. That person is made of the same ”materials’ , you are made of. Each of us grow a year older the same way you do. Each of us breathe and need the same things you need to survive in the world we are given.Yet, we pass on the slightest negativity of judging and stereotyping one another –  we comment, demean, or pick on one another.

Given that we have a mind of our own, we could take the slightest effort to consider ourselves thankful to even have the capacity to think straight and have concious thoughts to get us through events that take place in a day or so. Yet..what some of us do/say to one other indivudual / group of individual is beyond atrocious.

You are as equal as that person next to you. You are as equal to that person you commented on the internet. You are as equal as the person that waiting in que for the cashier.

We are all equal to each other more than we can imagine.  We (or atleast some) just don’t see this only because we utterly refuse to believe this, and so ‘being equal’ APPEARS to be out of topic.

Where you stand now, is where someone stood earlier.. and who you commented on now could be you later. Would you appreciate if you swapped places? Would you show much hatred to yourself? No right? – Then why the trashing, the cynicism and/or rude behaviour.

In hopes to hear of an increase in the no of safe places for people to live in,

I sign out.

(ps : A genuine post on an un-influenced opinion – not intended to harm any)

(pps : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIh2xe4jnpk )

Habby Birthday to the Bestie! / Co-blogger !

Yuhoooo! Its the co-awesome-blogger’s birthday todaaayyy!! From how we started as timid strangers to actually starting a blog together ( lets ignore how active we are in it) but still.. to many more ‘think alike’ ideas and achievements!! Cheers shah! Wish you all the best to what you aim for! :))