A little bit more.

Whatever you  do, you “need to be a little bit more”. I have been having this thought of how we are either being pushed or being told to ‘be a little bit more’. This is in regard to ‘a better you’ context.

Alright, in one way the idea is all about personal development and is for the betterment of your being, but what if that is just a social pressure that is silently damaging what we are as a person and our character. I’ve got no scientific research or philosophical proof of how exactly we are manipulated by our environment, but it’s obvious that we definitely are being pushed and pulled towards the perceptions of either individuals or the media.

Why do I have to listen to them?

It’s not even the general idea of being a better person – it’s the intricate details that these individuals and media go through. From the tiniest ways to live your life to get on a quest for major life changing decisions – why do you want me to listen to you? Why am I told to always be more than now?

 -No better you than the you that you are- (1)

Recent song release that got me thinking :

“No better you than the you that you are”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Em7vc8NWUNY

What you do is never enough.

Alright, so you come to a conclusion to change, just be a little more ‘open ears’ and listen to them. You understand their point and ‘try’ to change and you succeed too, but guess what, that’s not enough. You should do more. You should try harder. Apparently, the effort you made now is just tiny compared to what you should be doing – based on what the WORLD is doing. Why is that a concern – why are you telling me it should be MY concern? Can’t MY efforts be enough to satisfy MY goals? – nope, we just have to try harder.

“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”

The flip side

Remain calm, if it meant to be it will happen. Like, what now? After all the messages about trying harder and takings efforts to be better, now you tell me to just remain calm? Please media, make up your mind.

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On a serious note, I don’t think I can find an apt solutions to the weariness of this unbalance of having to ‘strive better’ and having to ‘be happy with at where you are’ – it does, of course differ based on your personal situation but the concern is – we are clung on to social media so much that before we start to understand if the message is personally relevant to us or not, we are already ready with conclusions.

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Until next time..xxx

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I am good at it, but that’s not what I love..

It took me a while to understand or to believe that this can exist. What I am talking about here is the feeling of being so good at doing something that you feel ‘this is what I was meant for’. But in no time you tend to get tired of the routine and look over the fence to explore further, that’s when the hating process starts. Everything seems to add to your sorrow and in the end you just want to go float in the pool face down!

For me it’s my messed up career. I want to try this, do that, work here, become that and so on. Why do I get that thinking?! God, why can’t I just have one focused route that would make my life so much easier. I need a guardian angel who would clear out all the chaos and make my journey so smooth and successful….But wait! That’s not even close to reality. If I want to make things work in my favor I need to fix it myself. In other words, be my own ‘guardian angel’. I don’t want to sound like a motivational speaker or a mentor, but in short what I mean is ‘It’s your life, you created the mess and you need to sort it out’…

That’s when I realized if I am good at something that doesn’t mean I love doing it, I maybe just diversely smart (if that makes sense). Some people are really lucky to have career that is their passion basically getting paid for what they love doing. And here I am figuring out what I really love and want to get paid for out of all the 1000 things I wish to do. I am pretty sure there are many out there who are confused, lost, insecure and afraid about their future. And we just keep thinking and worrying about it so much that we don’t go out and try the things on our list, just afraid of failing or getting embarrassed.

But now, I don’t want to feel that anymore. I soo need to just get out of that barrier and try the things I wish to have a career in… Starting Today I will work on my priorities and have a career in what I feel I am so good at, even without having a degree in. Well, for me it’s having my own bakery. I love baking and trying out combinations of foods. It’s been with me since my school days and now I have finally realized and joined the dots to recognizing my ‘forte’..

Let’s just get out there and try everything we wish to do without thinking about the result. And just go on striking off the items on the list until you’re left out with what you love to do for the rest of your life. #daretoliveyourdream

~Shahana