Lesson Learned : Magic no exist

Lesson Learned: There isn’t a magic wand tool in our world. No matter how hard or easy things get. We cannot swish a wand away to banish them off. They stick to you. Stick to you till you get down on your knees and surrender to solving this issue/s. They show you that it does indeed have the power of controlling you IF you choose to ignore it or pretend it does not exist – But yet, are you going to let it? Are you going to let it control you? Are you going to let it overpower your mental ability to slash off this slavery to excuses? You’re thinking – well maybe because I have no choice – ‘No choice’ is such a cliche. Choices are there. They just aren’t the choices you aren’t willing to make. They aren’t just what you want to opt. It’s ultimately your decision – but here, here what are we doing now – are we just choosing to break loose or are we going to let the power of excuses grow onto us? 
 
In the more realistic world, I have a ‘let it be’ mindset. If some of you are like me then this is what we do – we trick our minds to believe that a magical world exists and that there is some magic somewhere that you might just stumble across that would change our minds and our issues – we read, we listen, we try to understand and eventually we choose to ignore, we distract our minds, we pretend they don’t exist – and eventually we let these excuses slowly gobble up the only time we have to prove our own minds wrong. 
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Our constant search for what is better – what can be improved, what ‘could’ be better is basically letting us fall into a phase of hope. Well, for beginners, yes hope is needed…but what if we have to keep hoping for things to get better – for good changes to happen. Then we wait. We wait and wait. Just waiting for too long and as time passes – you continue to hope.
Only when I stopped to hope it struck me wait, although I wanted and hope for change- what did I do to make the change? What was my effort in it? Oh yes, I hoped  – so..is that all? I thought, don’t I want the hope shown as results..?
 
Look up at where you going than down hoping that magic still lies somewhere to show itself. No NO NO. You are your magic. The effort you put in to recreate your hope is the real deal.  No one else does it for you. No external power, no magical power…just YOU. 
Roo
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Cooking? – Ah so easy! (and so we assume)

So, I used to have this notion that cooking is just hmm, kind of eaaaasy – you just mix and swish and mix and swish.. you’ve got some masalas and you somehow get a curry. Honestly, I’m not a keen cook, I do not have enough patience for me to spend half a day or even more than 2 hours on cooking..well yea my mom would probably argue at that statement saying “you are sooo young, when you get the situation.. you will leaarrnn and you will be bettterrrr with time”. Well, mommy is mommy indeed.
One thing to add about taste here, no offense to the high-class restaurants but I would promise on anything that home-made traditional cooking skills are much much MUCH better than the same traditional dishes you try at “authentic restaurants”, and trust me, that IS the truth. Those trial and errors, those ‘adjusted curries’ with their secret tricks and tactics? — yup, THAT is also what makes home-based cooking skills way better. 
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But yes, back to my ‘notion’ – I used to think cooking is just Grade 8 science. You know, its just an easy experiment of the ingredients and the time and some extra ingredients.. oh that’s easy.. and mainly I use to think “one can never make it become a bad-cook.. like, you obviously work it out.” –  You are the programmer in making that dish.. you are in full control of what you put in that dish on the cooker. So if it tastes bad-ish, there is always a way out like, ” hey, don’t worry about too much salt in your dish,pour more water, dilute it, add more chilly powder and some other masalas and you are good enough”, or if it doesn’t taste good you CAN make it right and if the curry does taste good then great! – you’ve achieved some great cooking skills.
But for me? – nope. After today – after some very poor cooking experiments, “bad cooking” does exist! Forget ‘learning through experience’ and using recipe books or watching cooking channels – my cooking skills CANNOT be.. cannot be.. eh.. well it cannot be even called cooking.. well on second thought… obviously my curries are going to turn out bad if I have the mindset, I mentioned above ^, but YET, I mean it really amazes me how well some young people can cook. Now let me not critique on those kid-cooking shows, but watching those skilled kiddos cook – one think can more a less be confirmed – I don’t think I can survive on my own cooking skills (But you kiddos, need some applause for those skills).
Now that my rant inside the kitchen is over, I come out to rest and I think – ‘oh noo, I’ve got to eat that too’. Ahh well, good luck to my sister for trying out my failed science experiments.. well, we need dinner in any way.
Off and out,
Roo

“There was a time I believed in luck and signs”

“Yes, this is it. I am changing my thinking. I am changing myself “, is something you hear quite often when a new year comes. And this year I took some time to analyze something about me – My Thinking / My Thinking Process. 

There was once a time I believed in luck and signs, but as always when you grow older your perceptions change and your mind get introduced to different worlds and wider perspectives. This made me change into “science-believer”, I started trusted my instincts on practical thinking and practical solutions.

There is actually nothing like proving yourself with facts that led you to situations you face or overcame. The understanding of whys and hows – just that feeling of believing that you know you CAN change your mind, your decisions and the way you take actions. But recently, sole scientific thinking hasn’t helped much. My mind fell everywhere. I had so many practical solutions to my problems that I couldn’t find solutions suitable to MY feelings, MY ability, and MY emotional balance. Being practical does make you realize the FACTS. It does help reality to slap you in the face and say – “get your hopes low – plan your future and get those actions done!”. And so I had let myself down. I didn’t think I needed the balance then. Instead of learning to balance two kinds of thinking processes – I chose one from another. I chose to let go of the luck-based-emotional thinking (A-thinking) behind and I followed the action-based emotional thinking (B-thinking).
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Unfortunately, it’s not a game for your mind to take sides on which type of thinking should be chosen or not – or if chosen it would be more successful than the other. And then you begin to realize, tweaking our mind process to your wish does not NECESSARILY get you a “re-start” to life. It is unfortunate and yet again, all about striking a mental and emotional balance.
  1. You need that strength to create those actions and a source of faith to keep you committed – also you do really, really really, really, REALLY need to trust yourself.
  2. You as an individual would need BOTH in very fixed quantities that switch only in the level of priority, depending on your situation. At a given moment, you may need A-thinking over B-thinking, and at another time it would be vise-versa.
And so I’m off.
(Coming, from someone who may speak and write what is right, but might just be living the opposite.)
– Roo
“It’s your life but only if you make it so.” 
― Eleanor Roosevelt

Why the trashing, the cynicism and the rude behaviour?

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The world is much bigger than our mind could even imagine.

It may scare us with the abundance of factors that influence people and their behavior – the hate, the love, the criticisms, the racisms, the judgments or appreciation.

You may get completely lost and feel extremely minute when you get in contact with this wider world…

But just  think broader with a general perspective.. aren’t we all biologically at least 5% ( I could say more though) similar to each other – ignore the different factors – colour of the skin, nationality, the ‘I am from this place, therefore I look like this’ factor, the body sizes, the lifestyles, the educational background – anything – just about ANY factor OTHER THAN that we are all humans with one mind, one heart and a body that carries it?

That person who just passed by –  is just another reflection of yourself. That person is made of the same ”materials’, you are made of. Each of us grows a year older the same way you do. Each of us breathes and need the same things you need to survive in the world we are given. Yet, we pass on the slightest negativity of judging and stereotyping one another –  we comment, demean, or pick on one another.

Given that we have a mind of our own, we could take the slightest effort to consider ourselves thankful to even have the capacity to think straight and have conscious thoughts to get us through events that take place in a day or so. Yet..what some of us do/say to one other individual/group of individual is beyond atrocious.

You are as equal to that person next to you. You are as equal to that person you commented on the internet. You are as equal as the person that waiting in queue for the cashier.

We are all equal to each other more than we can imagine.  We (or at least some) just don’t see this only because we utterly refuse to believe this, and so ‘being equal’ APPEARS to be out of topic.

Where you stand now, is where someone stood earlier.. and who you commented on now could be you later. Would you appreciate if you swapped places? Would you show much hatred to yourself? No right? – Then why the trashing, the cynicism and/or rude behaviour.

In hopes to hear of an increase in the no of safe places for people to live in,

I sign out.

(ps : A genuine post on an un-influenced opinion – not intended to harm any)

(pps : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIh2xe4jnpk )

Habby Birthday to the Bestie! / Co-blogger !

Yuhoooo! Its the co-awesome-blogger’s birthday todaaayyy!! From how we started as timid strangers to actually starting a blog together ( lets ignore how active we are in it) but still.. to many more ‘think alike’ ideas and achievements!! Cheers shah! Wish you all the best to what you aim for! :))

Pathways to your passion?

If only we had the formula to follow through our life… wouldn’t you think our decisions would be much easier to make?

Wouldn’t you wonder why can’t things be as easy as people say when they say “you know, life is just a simple process.. follow your passion and you will get through easily”.. OH, IF ONLY!

For me of course, I would say my fairy godmother used too many colors to paint my freaking pathway.

Like seriously, my pathways are always confused with too many interests.. they are always vague, varied and versatile (alliteration! ha! :).  I cannot see myself focus on ONE  thing at ONE time, and they just EXPIRE withing weeks of just entering my dreamy mind.

In any given comparison of people with people, I always saw two kinds of people on the pathway to their passion.

One, the extremely focused one.. will do one after the other since school, high school, college or university or work or masters and just on and on. Picks up long-term choices and aims to be committed and complete each of these long-term choices with their complete commitment.
Then there is another who takes the next step as it comes and when it comes. They aren’t focused on one specific pathway, but they just pick up interests along with their life, believe that whatever small choices they make in their pathway will somehow lead to a passion that they would love doing 5-6 years later.

While the first set of people, although they may be leading a standard yet continuing pathway, they are indeed used to being committed to one thing at a time, and so have fewer chances of feeling lost.

But unfortunately for the latter self, picking out those interests along the way isn’t as easy as it sounds, you could eventually lose interest and master the ability of not being able to stay committed to one interest for more than a certain period of time.

Although these are the process, ultimately we look at the end result isn’t it?.. we will only dream about how and has the process led to that stage where you feel like the pathway was worth the final stage, right?

But the problem is… which process of the pathway is RIGHT? – the focused, committed yet standard (maybe boring) pathway to your passion OR the let-it-come-as-it-comes, fun, yet risky pathway to where you want to be?

Well, I am the latter (and now I need to stalk my fairy godmother and see why she hasn’t color co-ordinated my pathways yet) .

All I can sum this up to is this following quote :

” You are the person who has to decide. Whether you’ll do it or toss it aside: You are the person who makes up you mind, whether you’ll lead or will linger behind. Whether you’ll try for the goal that’s afar. Or just be contented to stay where you are”
Edgar A, Guest

Our life, Our choice. Choosing a pathway to your passion by far depends only on us, and our choices. Whether it’s a short-term choice or long term, we can proceed in our pathway if we take the initiative to make these choices. There aren’t any fixed formulas to fill our lives with the passions we dream of.. its only made of the little choices we take the effort to make.

Roo.

Rant of Influenced choices!

An exam rant: “I never should have signed up for this. I never should have taken up this. I knew I didn’t like studying for this and still, I went through it. I should not have taken up something I truly know I am not interested in.”
The only two ways studying can be done is through focus or through interest. Tell your mind to do something that has neither, and all you have is heaps of procrastination and major sense of ‘taking-things-lightly’.
Well yes, I don’t take things seriously. That’s what it is. I take things for granted. I don’t push myself harder every time I should be and I eventually give things up easily. That’s how I am, although that’s not how I should reason/deal with myself, that’s how I see things now. I know that I guess I won’t change for the better if I don’t force myself into creating an interest or focus for whatever I signed up for  – but guess what, it isn’t happening.
Reason? The mind already KNOWS that it doesn’t like what it’s doing or supposed to do. It leaves it. Yes. Mine does – it leaves it. I cannot push myself further if I don’t like what I’m doing. Even so, I would need this external push. IOW I am NOT a self-serving person I need to be pushed to be self-served. That’s just how I was molded into. After 21 years of being molded into a horse, you cannot order the animal to suddenly evolve into the characteristics of a tiger (strange.and.silly. inappropriate.animal.comparison intended here)
Yes, some characteristics evolve with time – timid children can grow up to have loud and outgoing characters and chatty children can grow up to be the wise and sound-in-knowledge characters. But the WAY they grew up is always IN them – that can be disguised with time but it cannot be made rid of.
Point is, no matter what choices we make, we do indeed get influenced by others and their advice.. but not all the choices laid out to you is what you need. Those choices you get can always be not suitable for you, it can always NOT match your inner personality.
What you are now (over the age of 20, I suppose) is what you have become through the many influences you have faced throughout these years. But there is also that personality IN us, that cannot be influenced – that has not been influenced – that has not been tampered with – but disguised with many layers of opinions and influences of OTHERS.
So what now? Well, its time we twenties start paving our path. Pick up a chisel and start chipping off those choices you KNOW you don’t need. Start choosing the choices which you know it would lead you to what YOU like and what YOU find interested in.
“One other way to find yourself is to lose that doesn’t define who you are or who you want to be”
xx