Perfect! We all know what this word means and how often we use it. But has anyone ever thought does this word really makes sense? Perfect means flawless or the ideal type. Is anything ever flawless in this world? Everything needs an upgrade over a time span. We either change in our preferences or try and match the rest of the world who are trying to match somebody else.
I am a business management graduate in Dubai and trying float on the high tides of a twenty something. We all sometimes compare ourselves to one another, especially the ladies. Well Amigos that has 2 sides to it. Firstly, some of us who are positive enough make that comparison a benchmark and the second set of us move out to an island full of darkness. My mother always told me that never hope or wish for something by equating yourself to another, always be thankful to God for everything we had. And I did so…but then not 100%.
I decided to take up a journey that shows how happy I am with myself yet questioning my inner self on the flaws I have ‘according to me’. In this wonderful everlasting journey I lost my actual identity, I dint know who I actually was. You know that feeling when you pre-plan all your moves or dialogues and just enact the script and later regret what in world did I just do and why I can’t just be myself?! YES that was me every single time. As I got older I realized everyone is different but most importantly they have their own problems that they cry every night for (or not). But guess what? My insecurities got older too, they got more intense more disturbing.
I dint know what I wanted or where my career is heading or how less social my life is becoming and how could I work this out and so on…
Finally one day I got tired of living in this scripted world of mine since I tried harder only to fail. I learned to say ‘I don’t care’. This helped me realize that there is nothing in this world that is ‘perfect’ there are mishaps and times when you have to love what you hate. Perfect only defines your confidence in yourself that says ‘ignore the people just love what you do and who you are’. And it’s super easy to achieve that, how? Just tell yourself ITS OKAY and you’ll be ready for anything.
It’s okay I can’t cook like Martha Stewart
It’s okay that my career is a mess
It’s okay that all my goals are so unrealistic but I still work for it
It’s okay that I watch Nat Geo when the world’s watching CNN
It’s okay that I’m not so fit but every day is a step
All this made me feel so much lighter. Every person has a different insecurity and ‘PERFECT’ is just a myth the world has created and it’s nothing that one can’t match up to. Just remember if you approve of yourself the rest will be history!!
~Shahana
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