Let’s see where this goes.

today, your coffee comes with breakfast in bed! - adoraIt’s been a while, but I guess late than never, so Happy New Year Everyone!

So many things have changed in the past year. To start with, as co-bloggers we aren’t in the same country anymore. I suggested closing my side of the account for good, to avoid this inconsistency, but that idea wasn’t well-received :P.

I didn’t really plan on writing this up, so I am not sure what would be the conclusion of this post, but maybe let’s just see where this goes. Well, pretty much that’s how we can deal with life these days. A year is well too long to plan and strategize how one can work around the life that is just constantly changing, and what’s worse is our mind changes more rapidly than our ‘action-able’ plans – so why bother right? Hence, the only thing I can work with is ‘let’s see where this goes’ (Ha! that could be the title)

In between the long aim of ‘letting life happens’, I do sometimes get this intense motivation that gets me hyped up with the wildest dreams (that don’t even make sense at that time), but I think no maybe it’s this time that I would make it happen and I would be so proud of myself with my achievement. But then shit happens.

So why are we so bound to the lows that engulfs our dreams? Over-thinking.Ah, I really didn’t think I would answer that question when I just typed it, but I did, and not to self-appreciate, but I’m right. Of course, many defensive minds would start saying ‘no there are other factors too’, yes there are, but eventually it’s our mind that controls our actions, and if we aren’t allowing ‘over-thinking’ to engulf our dreams then what is that damn creature?!? I would love to say it is what people in the Bird Box see aka the manipulative creatures, but that would be just for entertainment, ofc.

Anyway, now that over-thinking the content of this post, has engulfed the point of posting this, I should come to a conclusion. Once again, Happy New Year Everyone! although it feels like nothing extra to be excited about the start of a new year, we are constantly experiencing change. These changes are obviously both good and bad. However, our glorious over-thinking ability considers all the bad changes life has offered and ignore all the good deals that got done. So here is this post encouraging everyone to control those over-thinking phases of your life, just so that even if you have the wildest dreams you have to accomplish this year, may you do so (or even take the first steps to try) and be proud of yourself and the fact that you didn’t let that manipulative creature win.

Adios!

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Pressure: Bae for LIFE!

Hallo There!

Hello you people reading.. Brace yourselves for this rant that you are about to waste the coming few minutes on!!

Every being on earth has a tough life obviously cause that’s the bloody essence to survive, okay I get it BUT why do other things like: Time, Age, MONEY, Geography, Emotional Parents, and other freaking people who you don’t even know have to add to this already so tough life of yours that you are struggling to live?! Why? Just whhyy…

I come from a moderately conservative family, and I am very much okay with that. I was always allowed to do what I wish but with T&C’s lol, which is fair okay I get the worries. But when I am being such a nice person understanding all that, Why am I taken for granted? for being so understanding? It should be the other way around, I should be more…

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One Fine Outing

It’s been a while since we got active on our blog, so we thought we could restart by posting a few glimpses from our recent outing.

It’s always a gratifying feeling when the country we live in is always aiming to build a bigger and better lifestyle for us to experience. There is always something new here, and that’s the specialty.

 

End of the year post 

It’s December and New Year is 2 weeks away. Now, if it were my low days I would complain about how New year is not a big thing it’s just another year – blah blah, but I won’t. ‘Cos, that is just bullshit talk. New Year is an official restart to your life. Agree or not, that is the truth (note to self, as well)
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A lesson of 2016: PATIENCE

It’s funny how all throughout the year I kept looking out for the end of everything – ‘end of week’, ‘end of month’ and even when good things are happening around me, I would worry about the end of it, about ‘why‘ it has to end (well yes, when you see my face I may look like a blank canvas, but there’s a whole messy mindmap up there). So now that the year is all set to graduate, my feelings are – “wait, what?!” – well, this was my feeling yesterday. Today, it’s different. (Gotcha!). Today my mind is all ready to start digging a grave for all the mess-full thinking this year has given me, and (now that I’m on a gardening term of explanation) – I will TRY to plant in the good stuff this year has given me (just so it grows for next year you see ;))
Okay, yapped enough, time for some bullet-ing.
3 lessons of this year that I MUST obey for the next  (obviously there’s more, but who’s got the time, right? )
Point no. 1: Shits going to keep happening (of course). But gotta you juuustt gotta deal with it. Right now if things don’t work out the way you want it too. Take some time for thinking a way out, and there is ALWAYS a way out. The shitty day is going to pass anyway, tomorrow may be worse for all we know, but today is definitely going to pass (unless you have the remote to pause /fast-forward time, then please leave me your address, I’m coming to you)
Point no.2: If people don’t get you at a stressful situation, leave it. When the storm is calmer, come back later to explain yourself better- but just don’t let things hanging everywhere (no I’m not talking about your messy room!.. I’m talking about those awkward unresolved issues hanging in between formal conversations.
Point no 3: The only way to get past a mess is to get through it (this is my worst, I could do the first two and delay action-izing the third). But yes, no matter how much we hate to face a crappy situation, you will somehow have to deal with it – and the more time you waste avoiding it, the crappier the situation is going to be (ok, gtg slap me now to de-stress now).
Well then, until another 3 bullet points pop into my tangled mindmap, it’s time to chill with the last of 2016.
Sayonara,
Roo.

 

Pressure: Bae for LIFE!

Hello you people reading.. Brace yourselves for this rant that you are about to waste the coming few minutes on!!

Every being on earth has a tough life obviously cause that’s the bloody essence to survive, okay I get it BUT why do other things like: Time, Age, MONEY, Geography, Emotional Parents, and other freaking people who you don’t even know have to add to this already so tough life of yours that you are struggling to live?! Why? Just whhyy…

I come from a moderately conservative family, and I am very much okay with that. I was always allowed to do what I wish but with T&C’s lol, which is fair okay I get the worries. But when I am being such a nice person understanding all that, Why am I taken for granted? for being so understanding? It should be the other way around, I should be more trusted and allowed to make decisions that obviously are reliable and practical. However, that sadly isn’t the case. So do you get the level of frustration a person who is sensible with average IQ and BIG FAT DREAMS/AIMS/GOALS, has to undergo for no real reason? Like seriously!

You finish school, finish university and even grad school for what bruv? to freaking get a career not the ones of the millionaires but reach at a fair level you have worked so hard for. All these years you wait to reach this stage when you slog to find a job and settle down career wise. But NO, it’s time to get married, be a wife and start a family…Yuhhuu What fun! (no offence maybe it’s fun and is a dream for some, but not mine at the moment). Oh when you say no to that, You apparently have never ever followed your family or society or the freaking way of life. Like whaaat??!! Apparently anything you wish to do, you can do it after Marriage with your Husband! Yay that seems so possible…

And the best part, you don’t even get a job why? cause the market is down. Sure bruv you can be down and low as it can get but why now? and why you taking forever? Doesn’t the economy have 1 freakin job (or 2, for ma friend too). Anybody at this situation would move out and look elsewhere or maybe enjoy the vacay! But Na’a moving out is a huge step for you and the only next step is to be wife (woot woot). Okay so you try to destress by meeting your friends, shopping or any other thing you would do which will obviously cost you and make you spend them bucks on, but Hello hold on dahling! Your bank account is on freaking maternity leave!

Now you are drowning with emotions, but positive tumblr life quotes got you! Your optimist bar just rises and some nobody; your neighbor, or a relative who had been MIA all their life comes into the scene all so alarmed trying to save your life gives these oh so wise advices to you and family about how my age isn’t proportionate to what I’m doing with my life. ‘You need to settle down soon, your parents need a break’, ‘Just do some job for now anyway you gonna be home multitasking household chores’, ‘You won’t find good guys if you delay so much’, ‘Don’t know why her parents even listen to her, kids delay but they must know’ – People! I understand how worried you are about me, I really appreciated your non-existence in my life before so let’s maintain that in future too!

So you are in your bed going through insta and checking out vlogs on Youtube, and you hear mumbling from the other room. Who them? My family, Saying what? How they are so worried about me (which basically is my marriage). Like if you all haven’t got it yet – Marriage is what I was born for peeps! *emoji with the shades on*. Okay so I understand that has been yours and every other person’s dream to get me married HURRAY! But hold on a tad bit, it won’t harm you for sure I know!

It’s so simple, yet so hard for anybody to understand that – Marriage, Job, Family and Death (lol) doesn’t need a specific time, location, age, financial status, or societal pressure to be scheduled in one’s life! If I’m happy and I feel I’m settled then I’m obviously open to how others want to take the wheel of my life. Right now I’m not, how hard is it to see that Ya’ll? Stop this pressure, give it time. Let us figure out life first, just stop this unhappy cribbing for a while! It’s so uncalled for.. On one side (online) you see these posts about Feminism and Career Success and on the other side (the reality) you are literally fighting amongst so many emotions and killing yourself inside. The worst part, it’s not because of you that you are in this stress.. It’s the people, the pressures they bring into your life. When will this stop?! I can go on and on ranting, but I know the next minute I post this I’m going back to the physics of life – trying to position my age and life stage at equilibrium. Byyee..

 

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A little bit more.

 

Whatever you do, you “need to be a little bit more”. I have been having this thought of how we are either being pushed or being told to ‘be a little bit more’. This is in regard to ‘a better you’ context.

Alright, in one way the idea is all about personal development and is for the betterment of your being, but what if that is just a social pressure that is silently damaging what we are as a person and our character. I’ve got no scientific research or philosophical proof of how exactly we are manipulated by our environment, but it’s obvious that we definitely are being pushed and pulled towards the perceptions of either individuals or the media.

Why do I have to listen to them?

It’s not even the general idea of being a better person – it’s the intricate details that these individuals and media go through. From the tiniest ways to live your life to get on a quest for major life-changing decisions – why do you want me to listen to you? Why am I told to always be more than now?

 -No better you than the you that you are- (1)

Recent song release that got me thinking :

“No better you than the you that you are”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Em7vc8NWUNY

What you do is never enough.

Alright, so you come to a conclusion to change, just be a little more ‘open ears’ and listen to them. You understand their point and ‘try’ to change and you succeed too, but guess what, that’s not enough. You should do more. You should try harder. Apparently, the effort you made now is just tiny compared to what you should be doing – based on what the WORLD is doing. Why is that a concern – why are you telling me it should be MY concern? Can’t MY efforts be enough to satisfy MY goals? – nope, we just have to try harder.

“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”

The flip side

Remain calm, if it meant to be it will happen. Like, what now? After all the messages about trying harder and takings efforts to be better, now you tell me to just remain calm? Please media, make up your mind.

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On a serious note, I don’t think I can find an apt solutions to the weariness of this unbalance of having to ‘strive better’ and having to ‘be happy with at where you are’ – it does, of course, differ based on your personal situation but the concern is – we are clung on to social media so much that before we start to understand if the message is personally relevant to us or not, we are already ready with conclusions.

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Until next time,

Roo.

Life hacks for that phase in life when everything falls apart! (Tried & Tested by me)

No this isn’t a depressing, negative and disorienting post. It’s just an acknowledgement to one of the phases in life. The not so good one! According to me there are 6 facets to life – Family, Friends, Love, Education, Health and Career. Imagine when all of them go wrong! That’s what this is post is all about.

Just FYI I’m not going through depression or any unlikely mental condition. Life can’t always be happy and exciting, hence the posts too. No one actually talks much about the downfalls in life. Many of the posts/articles/videos/pictures tell a story that explain happiness or joy the person is going through. Yes, that’s a wonderful feeling to share your good times with everyone. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t going through a rough patch. Everyone is surely tackling something that makes them sad/depressed/unhappy/regret and that’s pretty much the truth which is hidden in those happy stories they share.

But wait, It’s not so bad after all its pretty much a learning and testing of your patience!

I may sound like I have found inner peace with all this negativity. But NO it’s a big fail! The trick is to use this phase as a stepping stone to follow your passion. It’s about finding yourself and knowing what you are good at. I know it’s hard but fighting for what isn’t happening or complaining is not the way out. You are just making yourself believe you can’t do it.What has to happen will happen at its right time which is pretty unknown and frustrating. But such is life! (Yup! It took me some time to understand and believe what I just said)

I’m addicted to productivity in anything I do. And it feels worse when your mental health stops you from doing things you could be doing just fine on the other days. Best is to let those days be the most unproductive of all its okay you don’t need to work yourself out. You are your own boss! You define your ways –

Come in terms with the situation, see what you can do with the skills & support you have. There are going to ups and downs, so many days when you have zero level of optimism. Let those days be don’t worry about not being productive or being nice to someone. Just do what makes you feel happy, even if it is getting sun burnt at the beach all alone but you are happy at the end of the day.

Strike out your worries out one by one, tackle them one by one. Don’t think or try to solve all the worries at once you just won’t make it. Prioritize and combat!

Speak to your friends and family, Yup! You have to. How much we want to run away from them and not explain anyone what we need and want cause they simple won’t get it. But just try and you will have help right there waiting to solve your mess. Remember you just need their support not their approval (Sadly, I’m guilty of that!! Yet it’s WIP).

Workout – Physically & Mentally, The best!

Keep trying, be it your job, education, health or family you just have to keep trying. Surely at a different intensity everyday but even if it is an 2% effort to fix things you still got to get the ball rolling. Don’t stick with the past and be open to ‘Change’. You need it!

Lastly be thankful to what you have, more than often times we don’t look into the good side of life and only focus on things that aren’t working out and ultimately reach nowhere. Take a break, stop and look at all that little things you have in life that others don’t and be thankful for those.

I am still working on achieving what I wish to achieve in life. These hacks have helped me through the years, yet I still have those days with lowest motivation. But you have to keep working for yourself cause if you don’t no one will! PERIOD

~Shahana

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It’s that day – Feb 29th!

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– Google Home page

Don’t you think an extra day that you know for sure doesn’t come in the next four years is like a gift worth appreciating? It may seem silly for the people who think ‘too practical’ – who say ‘nah, it’s just another day”… Well yes, it could be, but imagine scientifically (which is obvious THE most practical belief ) it is in fact proven that this day does not come in another four years. So, why not believe a little in that silly science fact and do something that is out of the ordinary?

For the questioners, here’s something quoted from Telegraph UK :

  “The Roman calendar did have 355 days with an extra 22-day month every two years until Julius Caesar became emperor and ordered his astronomer Sosigenes to devise a better system in the 1st Century. Sosigenes decided on a 365-day year with an extra day every four years to incorporate the extra hours, and so February 29th was born.” Source:  http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/12177017/Leap-Year-2016-Why-does-February-have-29-days-every-four-years.html

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Not sure how you see this but I see how beautiful this fact is.  In between our busy norms and our serious/not-so-serious thoughts in our head – we must acknowledge that this extra 24 hour isn’t something that will come again – that fact by itself is amazing. Do something or not is not the concern, but just appreciate the time –  not only for today but in general as well.

Just keep calm and carry on,

Roo.